Opinion and Analysis | Radio Islam https://radioislam.org.za/a The World is our Community Wed, 20 Nov 2024 14:43:37 +0000 en-ZA hourly 1 https://i0.wp.com/radioislam.org.za/a/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/cropped-RI-1022X1022.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Opinion and Analysis | Radio Islam https://radioislam.org.za/a 32 32 177518663 Israeli PM offers a $5m Reward for captives https://radioislam.org.za/a/israeli-pm-offers-a-5m-reward-for-captives/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=israeli-pm-offers-a-5m-reward-for-captives Wed, 20 Nov 2024 14:43:37 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=93446 Mumtaz Moosa | mumtazs@icloud.com
20 November 2024 | 16:30 CAT
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Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has announced a $5 million reward for each captive freed from Gaza, alongside an offer of safe passage for anyone who aids in the release of Israelis held by Hamas. This announcement was made during a brief visit to Gaza on Tuesday, where Netanyahu observed the Israeli military’s Netzarim Corridor. This strategic route separates northern Gaza from the southern region.

“To those seeking an exit from this situation, I say: whoever delivers a hostage will secure safe passage for themselves and their family. Additionally, a $5 million reward is offered for every hostage,” Netanyahu stated during his visit.

He emphasised Israel’s commitment, declaring, “The choice is yours, but the outcome is inevitable: we will bring them all home.” Israeli estimates suggest that 101 hostages remain in Gaza, though it is believed that approximately a third of them may have died. The reward proposal comes amid persistent protests in Israel by families of the captives, who are urging Netanyahu to negotiate a ceasefire agreement with Hamas for their release.

Netanyahu has reiterated that military action remains the primary strategy to ensure the return of all captives, asserting that Israel’s offensive in Gaza will continue until this goal is achieved. Some families of the captives have criticised the government for insufficient efforts to negotiate a ceasefire. Additionally, a former aide to Netanyahu was recently detained on suspicion of leaking sensitive information, potentially to undermine previous truce discussions with Hamas.

Analysts suggest that Netanyahu’s stance against a ceasefire is driven by concerns that halting the conflict could destabilise his far-right coalition and potentially prompt an inquiry into security lapses leading up to the 7 October Hamas attack. Meanwhile, Netanyahu faces a separate corruption investigation.

Hamas has accused Israeli negotiators of lacking genuine commitment to ending hostilities. Netanyahu, praising the Israeli military’s efforts in Gaza, declared that Hamas would not be allowed to regain control of the territory. “The army is performing exceptionally well in the central and wider areas of Gaza,” he said, according to a statement from his office.

A UN special committee recently reported that Israeli actions in Gaza bear characteristics of genocide, alleging the use of starvation tactics against Palestinian civilians. The committee noted that Israel’s operations have led to “mass civilian casualties and severe conditions for survival,” with officials advocating policies that deny Palestinians access to essential resources such as food, water, and fuel.

According to recent figures, the conflict has resulted in the deaths of nearly 44,000 Palestinians and injuries to over 104,000.

On Monday, leaders of the G20, convening in Rio de Janeiro, called for comprehensive ceasefires in Gaza. They expressed grave concern over the “dire humanitarian crisis” in the region, alongside worries about rising tensions in Lebanon. The G20 statement emphasised the need for ceasefires to enable displaced individuals in southern Lebanon and northern Israel to return home safely.

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What’s Going On In The EFF? https://radioislam.org.za/a/whats-going-on-in-the-eff/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=whats-going-on-in-the-eff Wed, 20 Nov 2024 09:03:34 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=93426 Rabia Mayet | rabiamayet@radioislam.co.za

19 November 2024

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The EFF has barred its popular member of parliament and former spokesperson Mbuyiseni Ndlozi from attending its 4-day elective conference set to take place in Nasrec in December, as well as barring him from attending all political activities including those in parliament.

Dr Ntsikelelo Breakfast, political analyst, indicates the relationship between Ndlozi and EFF leader Julius Malema seems to have broken down after another of the party’s members, Floyd Shivambu, “jumped ship”. Subsequently, when Dali Mpofu left the party, Malema stated that “there are also two more who are on their way out”, a clear reference to Ndlozi. The last report released on the weekend preventing Ndlozi from attending the war council seems to be “the straw that broke the camel’s back” and it is now public knowledge that “all is not well within the EFF”.

The application of democratic development within the EFF has been misused due to elitism and the suppression of a democracy. Malema seems to have gravitated towards Godrich Gardee, which is an “antithesis of democracy” for a party that claims to be democratic at its core.

Although popular within the ranks and files of the party, Ndlozi was prevented from attending several meetings to prevent him from attending the upcoming elections. Another reason for him being singled out is that he might have voted against the will of the leadership of the EFF. Despite “constructive dismissal” where the workplace is being made unbearable for him, Ndlozi is holding on. His qualifications, amongst them a PhD, make it easy for Ndlozi to start a career outside of politics, and there are even rumours that he may join Floyd Shivambu, who is “like a brother” to him and not just a mere comrade.

What is happening in the imploding EFF is a “dictatorship of the elite”. Not all is well in the party as members with a national standing walk away one after the other to join other parties. “Denialism” is the main problem as they continue to embed themselves in other socialist parties, says Dr Breakfast, a “self-fulfilling prophecy” by their leader, Julius Malema.

Listen to the full interview with Ml Sulaimaan Ravat on Sabahul Muslim.

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Journaling: A Therapeutic Tool for Today’s Youth https://radioislam.org.za/a/journaling-a-therapeutic-tool-for-todays-youth/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=journaling-a-therapeutic-tool-for-todays-youth Fri, 15 Nov 2024 16:12:22 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=93366 Neelam Rahim | neelam@radioislam.co.za

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15 November 2024 | 14:20 CAT

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In an age defined by rapid change and emotional complexities, the art of journaling emerges as a valuable therapeutic tool for young people navigating their inner worlds. In an interview with Radio Islam International, Shanaz Patel, a mindset coach and student of Islamic psychology, sheds light on how journaling can help teenagers better manage their emotions and thought patterns, particularly from an Islamic perspective.

“Journaling is more than just scribbling about a bad day,” Patel explains. “It’s a habit that enables introspection, helping individuals identify and understand recurring patterns in their thoughts and behaviours.” Unlike the casual keeping of a diary, therapeutic journaling encourages self-reflection and the pursuit of constructive change.

Drawing from Islamic principles, Patel describes how Islamic psychology integrates guidance from the deen into understanding human behaviour, differing from Western psychology’s scientific and research-based approach. The practice of therapeutic journaling, Patel says, resonates deeply with the concept of nasiha (advice) in Islam, which emphasizes self-awareness and improvement.

Contrary to stereotypes that link journaling predominantly with girls, Patel highlights its historical significance among influential men and underscores its value across all demographics. “It’s not about gender; it’s about growth,” she asserts.

A distinctive feature of journaling lies in the tactile act of writing, which Patel believes is inherently therapeutic. “Writing engages both the mind and body, making it a holistic process,” she says. However, she acknowledges that alternatives like voice notes or digital diaries can also be effective, catering to individual preferences in the digital era.

While journaling benefits all age groups, Patel focuses on teenagers due to their unique emotional challenges. Drawing from personal experience as a mother of teens, she emphasizes how journaling can foster emotional resilience in young people. “By understanding their emotions, they can address issues like prolonged tiredness or stress and work towards healthier routines,” she notes.

In a world that often overlooks the therapeutic value of such practices, Patel’s insights remind us that journaling offers a timeless path to self-discovery and emotional well-being for all.

You can listen to the full interview on Sabahul Muslim with Moulana Sulaimaan Ravat and Shanaz Patel, a mindset coach and student of Islamic psychology, here.

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How to Beat the End-of-Year Slump: Staying Energised as the Year Winds Down https://radioislam.org.za/a/how-to-beat-the-end-of-year-slump-staying-energised-as-the-year-winds-down/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-beat-the-end-of-year-slump-staying-energised-as-the-year-winds-down Thu, 14 Nov 2024 08:39:13 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=93296 Mumtaz Moosa | mumtazs@icloud.com
14 November 2024 | 10:30 CAT
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As the year draws closer, many of us find our motivation waning. The long months of work, study, or other commitments start to catch up, and the holiday season is just around the corner, tempting us to wind down early. But before we give in to the end-of-year slump, it’s worth making a final push to end the year on a high note. Here are some practical strategies to help you stay motivated, energised, and productive as the year ends.

Break Big Goals into Smaller Tasks

A key reason why the end-of-year slump hits hard is that we often feel overwhelmed by everything left to do. One way to tackle this is to break big goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Instead of focusing on finishing a massive project, set smaller milestones that you can achieve daily or weekly. Each small win will give you a sense of accomplishment and keep you moving forward.

Revisit and Celebrate Your Progress

The year may feel long, but take a moment to reflect on what you’ve already achieved. List accomplishments, big or small, you’ve made throughout the year. Celebrating your progress is a great way to reignite your motivation and remind yourself that your efforts have paid off. This practice can shift your mindset from “How much more do I have to do?” to “Look how far I’ve come!”

Prioritise What Truly Matters

As the year ends, it is easy to get caught up in urgent tasks that aren’t important. Step back and evaluate what needs to be accomplished before the year ends. Prioritise the projects, tasks, or goals with the most impact and let go of less essential ones. This will help you focus your energy on what truly matters.

Set a Reward for the Finish Line

End-of-year fatigue can result from not having something to look forward to. Create a personal incentive—a reward you’ll give yourself once you’ve hit your end-of-year goals. It could be a small treat, a day off, or even a simple change of routine to mark the end of a productive period. Knowing there’s a reward waiting can be a great motivator to push through the slump.

Keep a Consistent Routine

As tempting as it may be to slack off, maintaining a consistent routine can keep you grounded and productive. Try to keep regular sleep schedules, mealtimes, and work hours. Structure brings stability, and a consistent daily routine helps maintain focus despite low motivation. Small habits, like morning walks or midday breaks, can refresh your energy levels.

Find Joy in the Small Things

The end of the year is often marked by celebrations, holidays, and moments of joy. Allow yourself to enjoy these moments without guilt. Find ways to blend work with pleasure—light a scented candle while you work, take breaks with a cup of hot chocolate, or decorate your workspace with a touch of holiday cheer. Injecting joy into everyday tasks can make the final stretch more enjoyable.

Connect with Others for Accountability

If you struggle to stay motivated alone, consider teaming up with a colleague, friend, or family member. Share your goals with them and ask them to hold you accountable. Regular check-ins can keep you on track and give you a sense of camaraderie. Sometimes, a little encouragement from someone else is all it takes to push through.

Take Short, Energising Breaks

When you’re feeling drained, don’t hesitate to take a break—but make sure it’s a quality one. Step away from screens, take a quick walk, stretch, or do a breathing exercise. These short breaks can re-energise you without completely derailing your workflow. Be mindful not to let breaks become long distractions—keep them brief and purposeful.

Reframe Your Mindset: Progress, Not Perfection

The pressure to end the year perfectly can be exhausting. Instead, focus on making progress rather than striving for perfection. It’s okay if you don’t check off every item on your to-do list. Completing a project at 80% quality is better than not finishing it. Embrace the idea of “done is better than perfect” as you push through to the year’s end.

Practice Self-Care and Rest

Lastly, don’t forget that rest is essential to staying productive. The end-of-year slump can signify that your mind and body need a break. Prioritise sleep, eat nutritious meals, and engage in activities that recharge you. Self-care isn’t just about pampering yourself—it’s about preserving your energy and well-being for the long haul.

Conclusion: Finish Strong, Start Fresh

Beating the end-of-year slump isn’t about overworking yourself but finding a sustainable way to stay motivated until the end. By breaking tasks into smaller steps, celebrating progress, maintaining routines, and practising self-care, you can end the year feeling accomplished and ready for a fresh start. Remember, how you finish this year sets the tone for the next—so make it count!

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Eyes On EFF https://radioislam.org.za/a/eyes-on-eff/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=eyes-on-eff Thu, 14 Nov 2024 08:11:53 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=93291 Rabia Mayet | rabiamayet@radioislam.co.za

12 November 2024

4-minute read

All eyes are on the EFF as leaders leave the party one after the other for the MK.

According to political analyst Waastie Roodt, Malema’s leadership style could possibly be one of the central reasons for the EFF losing so many of its high-profile members. For any political party to succeed, the party has to offer its office bearers a combination of “principle” and “self-interest”, alongside clear vision and policies, while acting in accordance with those policies. Individual members require a road to advancement with sufficient policy clarity and sufficient buy-in into the party’s principles in order for them to remain loyal to the political party.

Dali Mpofu, national chairperson for the EFF for the first term but not the second, is amongst those who have left the party. He was a prominent figure of the EFF, as long as he “kept the party front of mind and was acting in their lane”. In terms of his actual contribution to the EFF, he was less critical of the party than Floyd Shivambu, who was among the first to leave the EFF and join the MK. There is speculation that Mbuyiseni Ndlozi is next to go because of his friction with Malema, as Malema himself stated that he is aware that there are other members who plan to leave the party.

EFF members jumping ship does not bode well for the EFF party, especially for their upcoming elective conference. Waastie cited that because “Malema was the EFF and the EFF was Malema”, the party is not inherently democratic. This not really a democratic election, but rather an election to find out what the leader wants and for factions to push back against that type of leader.

Waastie said that EFF members who leave and join the MK encounter the same problems as “there you find the same party members who blocked your rise in the EFF already taking up positions in MK”.

The EFF has not achieved much and they have no real “valued proposition to voters” and nothing to offer them. Although it seems that the EFF is now in a weakened position in terms of electoral support with a trajectory that does not look good, Waastie believes that things can change suddenly and “one shouldn’t really be in the prediction game if you look at politics”.

Listen to the full interview with Ml Suaimaan Ravat on Sabahul Muslim.

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Rashida Tlaib and Ilhan Omar: Names That Will Be Cemented in History https://radioislam.org.za/a/rashida-tlaib-and-ilhan-omar-names-that-will-be-cemented-in-history/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rashida-tlaib-and-ilhan-omar-names-that-will-be-cemented-in-history Sat, 09 Nov 2024 21:11:38 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=93147 Mumtaz Moosa | mumtazs@icloud.com
9 November 2024 | 23:00 CAT
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As the world watches the unfolding U.S. election results, two remarkable figures—Rashida Tlaib and Ilhan Omar—stand out, having secured re-election in this year’s cycle.

Let’s revisit their journeys to understand their impact. Rashida Tlaib first caught the world’s attention when she held up a bold sign reading “Guilty of Genocide” during Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s address. This defining image brought her recognition beyond U.S. borders. Tlaib, of Palestinian descent, has been re-elected for her fourth term, representing Michigan.

Ilhan Omar, meanwhile, made history as the first Somali American in the U.S. Congress and the first woman of colour to represent Minnesota. Her election marked a new era for diverse voices in U.S. politics, and she has now won her third term.

Tlaib and Omar are the first Muslim women to serve in Congress. In 2024, they again made history by securing their places in office. Their enduring legacies shape America’s history and pave the way for meaningful change and a more inclusive future.

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Ear Health: The Hidden Risks of Everyday Ear Habits https://radioislam.org.za/a/ear-health-the-hidden-risks-of-everyday-ear-habits/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=ear-health-the-hidden-risks-of-everyday-ear-habits Fri, 01 Nov 2024 18:05:14 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=92832 Neelam Rahim | neelam@radioislam.co.za

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01 November 2024 |18:00 CAT

Protect your ears: Audiologist warns against risky habits with earbuds and everyday items.

Our ears are an essential part of our daily lives, connecting us to the world in ways often taken for granted. However, many overlook the potential risks to ear health from seemingly harmless habits. Audiologist Fatima Ismail recently shared insights with Radio Islam International on the dos and don’ts of ear care, emphasising common practices like using earbuds, inserting foreign objects, and prolonged use of earphones.

According to Ismail, inserting objects into the ear, even routine items like earbuds or the end of a pen, can lead to serious damage. “The ear is a confined space, and the tympanic membrane, or eardrum, is delicate. Perforating this membrane can lead to infections, hearing loss, and lasting consequences,” Ismail warns. She advocates a preventative approach, stating that “nothing should be going into the ear.”

One frequent cause of ear infections is swimmer’s ear, or otitis externa, which occurs when bacteria thrive in trapped moisture within the ear canal. “It’s not just swimming that poses a risk; even showering can lead to infections if water becomes trapped,” she adds, highlighting the importance of ensuring the ear canal is dry.

The rise of modern ear devices like noise-cancelling headphones and in-ear earbuds has also raised new health concerns. Prolonged use of these gadgets can interfere with the ear’s self-cleaning process, leading to wax buildup and providing a gateway for bacteria. “Many people don’t clean their earbuds regularly, and bacteria from the uncleaned devices can flourish once inside the ear canal,” explains Ismail—her advice: clean earbuds daily with an alcohol swab to minimize bacterial risks.

Ismail stresses the importance of volume control when using ear devices, promoting the “60-60 rule,” which limits volume to 60% of the device’s maximum capacity. She cautions that noise-induced hearing loss, particularly from loud volumes, is irreversible: “Damage from blasting music directly into the ears is long-term.”

For those wearing ear devices all day, Ismail suggests opting for over-ear headphones, which reduce the risk of bacterial contamination and allow for better ear health management. Her final reminder encourages responsible use: “We may live in an age of modern gadgets, but their responsible use is essential to preserve our ear health.”

Listen here to the full interview on Sabahul Muslim with Moulana Sulaimaan Ravat and Audiologist Fatima Ismail.

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Overconsumption Trends Rise Amongst Muslim Tik-Tokers https://radioislam.org.za/a/overconsumption-trends-rise-amongst-muslim-tik-tokers/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=overconsumption-trends-rise-amongst-muslim-tik-tokers Fri, 01 Nov 2024 08:26:45 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=92800 Mumtaz Moosa | mumtazs@icloud.com
1 November 2024 | 10:30 CAT
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Many may not want to hear this, but it’s a conversation we need to have. In recent years, there has been a noticeable trend of Muslim women using TikTok to showcase their extensive hijab collections. A quick glance through these posts reveals cupboards overflowing with khimars arranged like shop displays featuring every imaginable shade—from soft pinks to bold, vibrant hues. One TikTok user even took the bold step to call out this trend, emphasising the urgent need to address overconsumption within our homes.

As women, we often desire the perfect scarf to complement each outfit. But let’s address the elephant in the room: Does this desire stem from a genuine need, or is it driven by an insatiable appetite for more, leaving us never fully satisfied with what we have? This desire to continually acquire more is precisely what the market targets. Many major brands and local businesses have tapped into the multi-million Rand modest wear industry in South Africa, creating a sense of perpetual need among consumers.

If we were to look through our wardrobes right now, we’d likely find numerous virtually identical items accumulated over time without realising it. Overconsumption is associated with a range of issues in Islam, one of the most pressing being debt. The endless desire for more often leads people to live beyond their means, straining their finances. Furthermore, overconsumption contributes to wastage—whether in the form of food, clothing, or the latest tech gadgets.

Overconsumption can also foster greed and discontent, as the constant desire for more can prevent people from truly appreciating what they already have. Islam teaches gratitude (shukr) and contentment, encouraging believers to appreciate their blessings and find peace in what Allah has provided.

How Can We Avoid Overconsumption?

  1. Evaluate Needs vs. Wants: Before purchasing, ask yourself if it’s truly a necessity and whether it fits into your monthly budget. Avoid impulsive buys; if you still want the item after two weeks, consider purchasing it.
  2. Practice Generosity with Good Condition Items: Each time you buy something new, take an item from your wardrobe that is in good condition and donate it to someone in need. This way, you avoid accumulating excess and ensure your home doesn’t become a storage space for “one-day” items. Remind yourself that life is unpredictable and that item might be better used by someone else.
  3. Avoid Consumerist Content: If you follow social media accounts that frequently showcase new purchases and advertisements, consider unfollowing them. Instead, follow those who inspire you to grow, simplify, and experience spiritual well-being.
  4. Remember the Sunnah of Simple Living: As one scholar wisely said, “Live on this earth as if you are a traveller.” Keep only what you truly need, avoiding items that are kept “just in case.” Embrace simplicity and remember that contentment lies in a heart satisfied with what it already possesses.

By being mindful of our consumption habits and focusing on what truly matters, we can align our lifestyles with the values of simplicity and gratitude in Islam.

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Trusteeship Troubles: Rogue Trustees Threaten Property Ownership in South Africa https://radioislam.org.za/a/trusteeship-troubles-rogue-trustees-threaten-property-ownership-in-south-africa/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=trusteeship-troubles-rogue-trustees-threaten-property-ownership-in-south-africa Sun, 27 Oct 2024 18:02:41 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=92623 Neelam Rahim | neelam@radioislam.co.za

3-minute read
27 October 2024 | 18:50 CAT

In sectional title schemes and corporate bodies, trustees play a critical role. They must balance their fiduciary duties with the potential personal risks inherent in their position, including financial risks.

Managing a property can be a delicate balance, especially when trustees or managing agents abuse their authority, leaving property owners vulnerable. Experts warn that homeowners must remain vigilant to protect their assets.

“Property ownership in South Africa has evolved dramatically,” says Dr Gerhard Johannes Jooste, a seasoned expert in sectional title management and a consultant for managing agents. “In the past, owning multiple properties or holiday homes was less common, but now collective ownership models like cluster communities and homeowners’ associations are growing in popularity. With that growth comes new risks.”

Dr. Jooste points to trustees and managing agents who misuse their authority, leaving homeowners frustrated. “Imagine trustees granting relatives access to your property without consent or financial discrepancies that are only uncovered long after the damage is done. Unfortunately, these situations happen.”

He stresses that trustees have significant responsibilities, including managing finances, maintaining property, ensuring compliance with laws, and enforcing rules. Mismanagement in any of these areas can erode trust, harm the value of the property, and even jeopardize the financial health of the entire community.

“Financial mismanagement is especially problematic,” warns Dr. Jooste. “Whether through delayed payments or favoritism in maintenance contracts, poor oversight can lead to serious financial losses for homeowners. Annual and monthly financial reports are required by law, but it’s up to owners to demand transparency and accountability.”

Homeowners also have legal recourse. Dr. Jooste explains, “In sectional title schemes, the Sectional Titles Act guarantees owners the right to request financial and management reports. They should receive this information within 10 days. Staying informed is the first line of defense.”

While most trustees perform their duties with integrity, the growing complexities of property management demand heightened vigilance. Dr Jooste encourages homeowners to engage actively with trustees and managing agents. “Your dream property should remain an asset, not become a financial nightmare,” he concludes.

Listen here to the full interview on The Daily Round Up with Moulana Junaid Kharsany and Alie Komape.

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Overcoming Matric Exam Anxiety https://radioislam.org.za/a/overcoming-matric-exam-anxiety/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=overcoming-matric-exam-anxiety Mon, 21 Oct 2024 05:20:31 +0000 https://radioislam.org.za/a/?p=92471 Rabia Mayet | rabiamayet@radioislam.co.za

16 October 2024

5-minute read

The intense pressure of the upcoming grade 12 exams is looming for matric students across the country. The need for education in this day and age has escalated astronomically as compared to in years gone by, and while parents’ expectations are higher than in the past, hope in their child’s future is the overriding factor for most parents wanting their children to get through the final examinations successfully.

Dr Sanele Gamede, lecturer at the University of Johannesburg, strategic youth, life and career coach, best-selling author of four books, educational motivational speaker, and employability practitioner, says that parents need to find the balance between pushing children enough so that they do well but not pushing them so hard that they go over the edge.

Dr Gamede himself did grade 10, 11 and 12 two times each. Since 2019, he has been running anti-suicide campaign for young people, particularly matriculants, and he focuses on the suicide rate at this crucial period. He recently wrote an article on a grade 12 pupil, Joseph, who, despite facing many challenges, had been encouraged to go back to school at the age of 20 to pursue his dreams. Dr Gamede said that it was “very painful for him, personally” to hear about Joseph who committed suicide when he was bullied by his teachers, despite being in such an advanced age of technology and social media. It is of utmost importance to encourage young people not to commit suicide.

When addressing our children, “our tongue has the power to build or destroy” and we need to be mindful of what we say, when we say it and how we say it. The words we speak can be sharp or soothing. Being careful about what we say to our young people could contribute to their success or, on the other hand, could contribute to them giving up. Every parent should accommodate their matric kid by checking on them regularly and offering support. Let your kid know that you are there for them and don’t put so much pressure on them that they break. And appreciate the work your child has done.

Parents are required to give emotional support for their children, and must check on them continuously but not in a pressurized way. Kids writing matric may display signs of stress through moodiness, tiredness, sleepiness, perspiration etc. In supporting their matric children, parents can reduce their chores, check on them, ensure they are eating and sleeping adequately, as well as drinking sufficient water, make sure that they are presentable at all times, set up their schedules for getting them to their exam venues of time and keep the lines of communication open.

But what about kids who are in matric but are just not interested? Dr Gamede said that those who are not putting in the work they are supposed to be putting in require continuous encouragement by parents “showcasing the future” in a positive way, so that the student will be willing to work hard. Don’t use words like “useless” in describing their results, instead try to build them up. “If you bruise my ego, I’m going to be bruised; if you brush my ego, I am going to feel better and I will want to work hard,” is how kids feel.

Matric learners should embrace and celebrate the fact that they are writing their exams. As much as they want us to be proud of them, they should be taught to be proud of themselves. It is essential for matric students to pace themselves when studying. As a learner, don’t put too much of pressure on yourself, focus on what you have learnt and your workload, and don’t become overwhelmed by the fact that you are writing this final examination. Dr Sanele says “it’s possible because it’s doable”. Previous results and reports should not be a deterrent for a learner. It’s never too late and effort can still be put in, right up until the end.

Many kids in SA are not only dealing with academic pressure, but also economic and lifestyle factors that makes it difficult to study. Generational poverty in rural areas has a huge impact on learners and while most of our kids don’t have these challenges, there are many who do. In accommodating their children, parents are required to make certain sacrifices to lessen their children’s challenges and improve their circumstances in order for their results to improve.

Dr Gamede is also the founder of Make a Mark Africa Youth Development, an NPO that provides mentorship for young people across the country. They are holding a summit from the 5th to the 8th December for people interested in youth development, to recruit young people who will provide support to matriculants at a time when they are stressed and confused.

So what about paying tribute to parents of matric learners? Parents also feel different types of pressures: they are worried about their child’s emotional well-being and mental health; they have the fear of their kids committing suicide, fear about their futures and kids becoming independent; and fear of their kids going into tertiary institutions and getting influenced by people from other faiths and cultures. There are concerns about moral values and spiritual development; balancing worldly success with spiritual goals; and pursuing career related goals while holding fast to Islamic practices. Parents try to guide their children while managing their own personal issues and dealing with other home issues and financial struggles. Amongst the greatest pressure for Muslim parents is bringing up a spoilt and entitled generation so while parents strive to do their best, they should know that all outcomes are from Allah alone.

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