{"id":34132,"date":"2020-07-07T10:49:00","date_gmt":"2020-07-07T08:49:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.radioislam.org.za\/a\/?p=34132"},"modified":"2020-07-07T10:49:00","modified_gmt":"2020-07-07T08:49:00","slug":"how-parents-can-avoid-creating-sibling-rivalry-part-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/how-parents-can-avoid-creating-sibling-rivalry-part-3\/","title":{"rendered":"How Parents Can Avoid Creating Sibling Rivalry Part -3"},"content":{"rendered":"

Stay out of Squabbles<\/strong><\/p>\n

This one might surprise you, but do you know the best thing you can do when a disagreement starts to brew? Ignore it. That\u2019s right, go find something else to do in another room. Don\u2019t give the squabble any attention. As long as they don\u2019t start fighting, screaming and throwing things, let them sort it out on their own. It actually could teach them negotiating skills.<\/p>\n

By ignoring the tussle, you don\u2019t reward negative behavior with your attention and most importantly, you give them a chance to work it out on their own. If the fight escalates into a physical throw down or you really feel like intervening is necessary, you can use the next two steps to guide your interactions when you do get involved.<\/p>\n

Calm the Conflict – If your kids clearly can\u2019t reach an agreement, or if the fight escalates, you might have to step in. Whatever you do, don\u2019t take sides. You might think you heard or saw what started or who started the argument, but don\u2019t place any judgment on either party.<\/p>\n

Instead, once everyone is calm, listen to each child\u2019s version of what happened and then, without placing blame or taking sides, ask them to come up with some solutions together. If no one is able to come up with a workable resolution, suggest a few yourself, and help them reach an agreement. Whatever you do don’t take sides<\/p>\n

Put them all in the same boat – If, after hearing both sides and attempting to find a solution, your kids still can\u2019t agree, it\u2019s time to put them \u201call in the same boat.\u201d That means everyone involved in the argument experiences the same outcome or consequence.<\/p>\n

An \u201cAll in the Same Boat\u201d statement would sound like this: \u201cEither you can take turns with the game, or I will put it away for the rest of the day.\u201d Then follow through. There will likely be some complaining and negotiating at first, but your kids will quickly realize it\u2019s in their best interest to agree on a solution together before you \u201cput them in the same boat.\u201d<\/p>\n

Conclusion<\/strong> – As a parent, do you understand what you achieved by adopting the above method? None of them can say that mummy loves me more or daddy is on my side because each one was treated equally. Sure, both could say that mommy or daddy is being unfair but as a parent, you rather have both feeling bad instead of one feeling superior. If your children feel they in the same boat, it is highly unlikely that they will be rivals. When the feeling of superiority and inferiority enters the equation, rivalry and enmity are sure to follow.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Stay out of Squabbles This one might surprise you, but do you know the best thing you can do when a disagreement starts to brew? Ignore it. That\u2019s right, go find something else to do in another room. Don\u2019t give the squabble any attention. As long as they don\u2019t start fighting, screaming and throwing things, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":33824,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[43],"tags":[5476],"class_list":["post-34132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-special-feature","tag-special-feature"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/featured.png?fit=400%2C240&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pc0QIf-8Sw","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-04-16 00:56:27","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34132"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34132\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/33824"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}