{"id":34641,"date":"2020-07-13T08:12:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-13T06:12:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.radioislam.org.za\/a\/?p=34641"},"modified":"2020-07-14T12:41:37","modified_gmt":"2020-07-14T10:41:37","slug":"why-some-of-us-cannot-admit-when-we-are-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/why-some-of-us-cannot-admit-when-we-are-wrong\/","title":{"rendered":"Admitting That You Are Wrong – Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

Why Some of Us Cannot Admit When We Are Wrong<\/strong><\/p>\n

We all make mistakes, and we do so with regularity. Some errors are small, such as forgetting to buy bread on the way home and some are bigger such as leaving home late and missing the flight.<\/p>\n

No one enjoys being wrong. It\u2019s an unpleasant emotional experience for all of us. The question is \u2014 when supper is ready and there is no bread or when the entire family is at the airport but the plane has left \u2013 How do we react in these situations?<\/p>\n

Some of us admit we were wrong while some of us kind of imply that we were wrong, but we don\u2019t do it so explicitly or in a way that is satisfying to the other person – we might say that traffic was bad that is why we missed the flight but next time we will leave earlier. But some of us refuse to admit we\u2019re wrong, even in the face of overwhelming evidence. Even we left home two hours late we will still find a way to blame the airline.<\/p>\n

This week, inshaAllah, we will take a closer look at this last type, the type that can never admit that they are wrong. As we go through the daily discussions, the objective is not to look at others but rather to ask ourselves if we are guilty.<\/p>\n

Why Some of Us Cannot Admit that We are Wrong?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ego – The answer is related to their ego, their very sense-of-self. Some people have such a fragile ego, such brittle self-esteem, such a weak “psychological constitution,” that admitting they made a mistake or that they were wrong is fundamentally too threatening for their egos to tolerate. They literally distort their perception of reality to make it (reality) less threatening. As a result, they will blame the airport, the traffic and even the parking security guard if need be.<\/p>\n

They think being wrong means they\u2019re unworthy – For some, conceding that they\u2019re fallible can evoke a deep psychological anxiety regarding the risks or the consequences associated with loss or failure. Some can\u2019t apologize NOT because they don\u2019t like to be wrong, but because it\u2019s seen as an inherent character fault. The difficulty in admitting failure largely comes from the unrealistic expectation that \u2018I should get it right all the time\u2019.<\/p>\n

They think never admitting fault makes you look stronger – For some, appearing apologetic is congruent to appearing weak, but they could not be more wrong, because a good leader admits their mistakes. According to experts, there\u2019s some actually very interesting research that leaders who express vulnerability and are more open to being fallible tend to be more highly regarded.<\/p>\n

This makes sense because if someone is saying, \u2018I\u2019m 100 percent perfect, I\u2019m 100 percent right all the time,\u2019 that\u2019s hard to believe because no one is perfect. Whereas someone who says, \u2018You know, I\u2019m going to do my best but I\u2019ll make mistakes sometimes, I\u2019ll get it wrong, I\u2019m sorry but I\u2019ll try to fix it\u2019, that\u2019s more believable.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Why Some of Us Cannot Admit When We Are Wrong We all make mistakes, and we do so with regularity. Some errors are small, such as forgetting to buy bread on the way home and some are bigger such as leaving home late and missing the flight. No one enjoys being wrong. It\u2019s an unpleasant […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":33877,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[43],"tags":[5476],"class_list":["post-34641","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-special-feature","tag-special-feature"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/featured2.png?fit=400%2C160&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pc0QIf-90J","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-04-26 09:36:45","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34641","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34641"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34641\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/33877"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34641"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34641"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34641"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}