{"id":65976,"date":"2022-04-25T09:38:47","date_gmt":"2022-04-25T07:38:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/?p=65976"},"modified":"2022-04-28T10:52:04","modified_gmt":"2022-04-28T08:52:04","slug":"family-part-16-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/family-part-16-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Family – Part 16"},"content":{"rendered":"

Family Disputes<\/strong>
\nI am sure we all can\u2019t help but reflect on how we\u2019d all wish to have the perfect family: every member of the family being Allah-conscious, parents fulfilling the rights of their children and vice-versa, harmony between siblings, a marriage with very few conflicts and loads of happy moments, and delightfully obedient children. Indeed, it is extremely difficult to even think that such a family exists on this planet, yet it cannot be denied that there are some families whose happiness radiates wherever they may be; they have strong connections of love and affection. May Allah preserve such families and bless others with the inspiration to become like them. The truth is, however, that most of us have conflict and strife within our families; with our parents, siblings, cousins, spouses, children, in-laws, etc. Some of this conflict is minor, while some of it has left stains of trauma and wreaked havoc in the lives of so many.<\/p>\n

However, our beautiful Deen and the honoured Sunnah always has solutions and one can certainly gain a lot of stability and contentment, in the realization of three important things:<\/p>\n

1.Every family has their issues.
\n2.Pure happiness and contentment with one another is reserved for Paradise, and not the life of this world.
\n3.Even within our own Islamic tradition, we find countless examples of great people who dealt with tons of issues.
\nConsider the following examples:<\/p>\n

Parent Issues<\/strong>
\n\u2022Ibrahim AS, the great man that he was, was threatened by his own father when he preached to him the message of Islam. Not only did his community deny him, but his own father did too. Imagine the pain.<\/p>\n

Sibling\/Child Issues<\/strong>
\n\u2022Qabil grew jealous of his brother Habil and eventually slew him. These were the first sons of our common ancestor, Adam AS. Imagine the turmoil of murder within a family, and the loss of a child for Adam and Hawa AS.
\n\u2022The brothers of Yusuf AS conspired to get rid of him completely. For years, his father Ya\u2019qoob AS grieved the loss of his son, and upon his eventual return, Yusuf AS`s brothers were filled with regret for what they had done. Imagine a grief that causes you blindness, as it did to Ya\u2019qoob AS. Not only that, but Yusuf AS was from a line of prophets (Yusuf son of Ya\u2019qoob son of Ishaaq son of Ibrahim AS) and was still not immune to such a trial.<\/p>\n

Spousal Issues<\/strong>
\n\u2022Both Ibrahim AS and his wife Sara, along with Zakariyya AS and his wife had trouble conceiving a child. As well, Aasiya RA the wife of the greatest tyrant Fir\u2019awn brought Musa AS into her home after not being able to have her own child.
\n\u2022Maryam RA brought Isa AS into this world alone and with no communal and spousal support. Imagine how we treat such mothers today.
\n\u2022Both Lut AS and Nuh AS were betrayed and left unsupported by their wives. They were prophets and still, they had issues in their marriages.<\/p>\n

Our Greatest Example<\/strong>
\n\u2022The Prophet Muhammad \ufdfa lost his beloved parents, his father before he was born and his mother not long thereafter, and then his grandfather, Abdul Mutallib, and then even his uncle Abu Taalib to who he was very dear and who proved to be one of his greatest supporters.
\n\u2022He lost many of his children as infants, children and adults.
\n\u2022He lost his dearly beloved wife, Khadijah RA, and mourned her death deeply.<\/p>\n

These are just a tiny fraction of the examples of family matters which we can draw from our own Islamic tradition. Indeed, what is even more incredible is that those mentioned above were far more pious and sincere to Allah than we could ever be, despite their hardships.<\/p>\n

Notice that their piety did not mean a life of ease and perfection \u2013 no! Instead they were tried with things that today, might bring you and I to our knees. Because Allah tells us that He does not burden a soul with more than they can bear. By testing them with such trials, the Almighty knew that they were capable of coming out purified.<\/p>\n

Now, what about you and me?<\/strong>
\nRemember family issues are inevitable. Don\u2019t look to the lives of others to escape your own problems \u2013 realize that Allah has placed you in the circumstance you are in because He, in His supreme knowledge, knows you can handle it.<\/p>\n

The choice is ours \u2013 let\u2019s figure this stuff out!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Family Disputes I am sure we all can\u2019t help but reflect on how we\u2019d all wish to have the perfect family: every member of the family being Allah-conscious, parents fulfilling the rights of their children and vice-versa, harmony between siblings, a marriage with very few conflicts and loads of happy moments, and delightfully obedient children. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":64857,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[43],"tags":[5476],"class_list":["post-65976","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-special-feature","tag-special-feature"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/04\/family.jpg?fit=200%2C112&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pc0QIf-ha8","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-04-25 20:45:52","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65976","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65976"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65976\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/64857"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65976"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65976"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65976"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}