{"id":69612,"date":"2022-07-25T12:34:52","date_gmt":"2022-07-25T10:34:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/?p=69612"},"modified":"2022-07-25T12:37:22","modified_gmt":"2022-07-25T10:37:22","slug":"what-does-judging-others-tell-you-about-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/what-does-judging-others-tell-you-about-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"What does judging others tell you about yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Shakirah Hunter<\/p>\n

Judging others is an instinctive part of our lives as human beings, the mind finds it easy to be curious about people but it becomes too lazy to investigate the why behind any action. Therefore, the easiest response is to create judgement.<\/p>\n

Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, \u201cDo you know who are the foremost to the shade of Allah Almighty on the Day of Resurrection?<\/strong>\u201d They said, \u201cAllah and his Messenger knows best.\u201d The Prophet said, \u201cThey are those who accept the truth when they receive it, who offer the truth when they are asked for it, and who judge people the way they judge themselves<\/strong>.\u201d<\/p>\n

Source: Musnad Ah\u0323mad 23858<\/p>\n

Grade:\u00a0Hasan<\/em>\u00a0(fair) according to Al-Suyuti<\/p>\n

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Whether it is WhatsApp groups, or in social settings we find ourselves naturally predisposed to judgement. Often, we find that people around us will be doing the worst of actions, yet we are not affected by it in the least and can often ignore it. Yet there are certain actions that bring about judgement immediately. The question is why is it that certain actions will always trigger us to judgement \u2013 what is it that only allows certain points of actions to trigger a rection within us. The Holy Prophet (S) has very aptly described us as mirrors and this hadith has been incorporated into modern day psychology to explain the reason behind our judgement of others.<\/p>\n

As per Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, \u201cAlthough our conscious minds are avoiding our own flaws, they still want to deal with them on a deeper level, so we magnify those flaws in others.\u201d<\/p>\n

We can only see in others what we have inside ourselves. First, we reject, then we project.<\/p>\n

When we judge someone for something, we are actually judging ourselves as the very same thing; we just haven\u2019t fully owned or accepted that trait yet within us.<\/p>\n

When we judge, does it reflect others or ourselves?<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.\u201d ~ Earl Nightingale<\/p>\n

As parents we find ourselves judging the parenting skills of other parents, we jump to conclusions on the choices made in the moment of parenting. We judge other children over our own kids and tend to be more lenient in judgement to ourselves over others.<\/p>\n

\u00a0As teachers we judge other teachers \u2013 we often think that their methodologies are incorrect, or we tend to compare them to the bar that we set for ourselves.<\/p>\n

The list goes on \u2013 judgement is the lazy way out. An easy way to never have to take the time to find out the why of another person\u2019s decision or choice. It is simply to move us away from focusing on our own areas that are in need of work or to deal with self-awareness. It is the oldest sin, and it is a direct mirror of the statement of Shaitaan wherein he stated, \u201cI am better\u201d.<\/p>\n

The practice of \u2018I\u2019itizaar\u2019 is to practice the act of looking for \u2018every possible excuse for a fellow believer\u201d \u2013 There are some narrations that we should look for 70 excuses before creating judgements irrespective of the external circumstance.<\/p>\n

As we judge others , the question that comes to mind must constantly be : \u201cWhat is this telling me about my own development?\u201d Whether a simple judgement or a harsh judgement \u2013 my own development and self- awareness should always be center stage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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