{"id":95021,"date":"2025-02-12T11:20:12","date_gmt":"2025-02-12T09:20:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/?p=95021"},"modified":"2025-02-12T11:20:12","modified_gmt":"2025-02-12T09:20:12","slug":"date-your-spouse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radioislam.org.za\/a\/date-your-spouse\/","title":{"rendered":"Date Your Spouse"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Mumtaz Moosa | mumtazs@icloud.com<\/a>
\n12 February 2025 | 11:15 CAT
\n2 min read<\/p>\n

<\/strong>An interactive discussion on my platform recently explored why couples divorce after many years together. While I may not be a specialist in this field, I\u2019ve noticed a common pattern\u2014many couples become so busy building a life that they forget to nurture their relationship. Others find themselves lost when the kids grow up, get married, and move out. They no longer know what they have in common because they\u2019ve spent the last 20 or 30 years focused on raising their children. Conversations revolve around the kids or extended family, leaving little room for meaningful connection as a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

From personal experience, I can confidently say that\u00a0dating your spouse<\/em>\u00a0is one of the best investments you can make in a lasting, fulfilling marriage. I know life gets busy with work and schedules, and you may wonder\u00a0how we find the time.<\/em>\u00a0The answer is simple: prioritise it.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Set aside time to reconnect, whether once a week or monthly. Choose a day when the kids are at school or other commitments allow. Start work a little later or take an hour in the evening just for each other. Go out for a coffee, walk, or even sit at home and share a meal\u2014without distractions. Make it a rule: no conversations about the kids, no family discussions, and no phones.<\/strong> Instead, talk about each other. Ask your spouse about their week, what they\u2019re reading, what\u2019s on their bucket list, or enjoy their presence.<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s no such thing as a \u201cperfect\u201d marriage, but there\u2019s effort, and effort makes all the difference. Many couples settle into routines, and while routine brings stability, it can also create emotional distance if we don\u2019t nurture our bond. Small efforts today prevent bigger rifts in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n

As I mentioned on the radio, we evolve with time\u2014our interests, hobbies, and even perspectives change. The last thing we want is to wake up one day next to a spouse who feels like a stranger.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we got married, we were told marriage requires\u00a0sabr<\/em>\u00a0(patience) and hard work. But that hard work isn\u2019t just about building a life together; it\u2019s also about ensuring we don\u2019t drift apart. That way, when the\u00a0empty nest<\/em> phase arrives, we\u2019re not left feeling like two strangers in the same home, but as two people who truly enjoy each other\u2019s company.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s make a collective effort to\u00a0date our spouses<\/em>\u00a0this year\u2014for the sake of our Creator and for the love that brought us together in the first place.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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