Before you consider how to stop shopping, it will help to understand why you want to stop shopping or to decide if you need to stop shopping at all.
Buying things isn’t bad or wrong, but shopping to feel a certain way, or to prove yourself to others or because you think something will make you feel happier or more successful doesn’t work.
If you aren’t sure if you need or want to stop shopping, start by noticing your shopping habits. Pay attention to where, when and why you shop, how much you spend, and what you buy. You could estimate, but the most accurate, impactful method is to track your spending for 30 days. Carry a small notebook, and notice your shopping habits on paper. Don’t wait until the end of the day to add it up, but instead take a quick note each time you spend. Note what you spend and what you buy. For closer examination, write a few sentences about what’s going on or how you are feeling when you shop. You may be able to spot some patterns at the end of your experiment.
After tracking your spending for a month, or if you just know it’s time to stop shopping, write down your why. Why do you want to stop shopping? Do you want to trade shopping for…?
• More money?
• Less clutter?
• More time?
• Less decision fatigue?
• More energy?
Your reason may be different, or may include all of the above. Once you’ve figured out why, write it down and keep your note handy so you can see it whenever you are tempted to shop.
Now let`s take a look at some tips on how to stop shopping.
Identify the real need.
Before you buy something new because you are bored, sad, frustrated or even celebrating, identify the real need. How do you want to feel? What could you do besides shopping to feel that way? For instance, if you are frustrated, would taking a walk provide some relief?
Remove temptation and encouragement to shop by unsubscribing from your favourite store newsletters. Steer clear of one-click shopping. Don’t help friends shop. Stop window shopping, reading magazines, and clicking through to lists of “favourite items” from social media or blogs. Where do you enjoy spending money? Don’t go there.
Timing is everything, especially when it comes to an impulse purchase. Delay your purchase for 30 days and see if you are still as excited about it as you were initially. Chances are the desire will pass.
Try a shopping ban.
Make a commitment to stop shopping for all non-essential items for 30 days, three months or for an entire year. If your closet is the problem, you just have to stop.
Watch your excuses.
If shopping excessively is part of your daily life, when you stop, you’ll find excuses to shop. From gifts, to convincing yourself that you need something new for an upcoming event, to just in case shopping, it won’t be hard to find a loop hole. Simply pay attention and when excuses come up, revisit your why.
If you want to shop your way into a happiness boost, stop. Research shows people who give away their time and money are happier than those who don’t.
Start a “what matters” fund.
What really matters to you? If you want to become debt free, support a local charity, spend two weeks in another country, build a house, or change careers, start a fund specifically for that. When you are tempted to shop, ask yourself what matters more and make an intentional decision about how you want to spend your money.
If you aren’t happy with what you have, you won’t be happy with what you get. More stuff doesn’t equal more happiness. Keep a gratitude journal or make gratitude part of your morning practice by silently acknowledging a few things in your life that you are grateful for. As the saying goes, it’s not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.
When you do stop shopping, don’t judge your past behaviour. Notice it, but resist making judgements or feeling badly about it. You’ve already paid enough. You’ve paid with your money, time, attention, energy and emotions. You don’t have to continue paying with guilt or other negative emotions. If you’ve decided that this is the time to stop shopping and regret a recent purchase, remember … you can return that item.